The Fulfilled Entrepreneur: Your Business G-Spot

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Ho, ho, ho. Merry Christmas! Happy Holidays! Today is a very special day because, if you were a good girl little boy or girl, Santa probably came down your chimney last night and left some goodies underneath your Christmas tree. And if you don’t celebrate Christmas, I hope you had an amazing Hanukkah or holiday season, whatever it is that you celebrate.

Hope you had a great time with friends and family, loved ones. I know that we did, we had a great time with our kids and our family. Lots of snow, which was really nice. So, this episode is not going to be a very long one, but I think the timing of this is perfect because you will see that this is the time of year to really focus on what I am talking about.

It’s about the fulfilled entrepreneur. And most specifically, your business G spots.

The gap—what is it? And why should you stay away from it?

That’s right. I know it’s a little bit taboo and controversial, but here’s the thing. As entrepreneurs, we tend to be very go-getter, A-type, nonstop type of individuals, right? And that’s all great. That’s part of our superpower. But the dilemma is that a lot of times we end up living in this thing called the gap.

Now, I first heard this term from my coach Dan Sullivan, from My Strategic Coach. The gap is essentially the distance, the difference, the space between where you are and where you want to be.

So, you’re currently at $1 million and you are seeing somebody else in your circle of friends who’s making $10 million. Now there’s this comparison. You’re living in what you don’t have. A phrase like, “Oh, my God. I’ve gotta be there. What I have isn’t good enough. I need to be there.”

If you go on Instagram or Facebook, you look at other people’s highlight reels, you often feel slightly worse about your life or your business as a result of doing that. And in this day and age where social media is constantly in our face, it’s very easy to live in the gap. Social media is constantly showing us what we “should” have in our lives. And a lot of times, we don’t really recognize or understand that the people who are showing us these images or these videos of their life … They are small little snippets, snapshots, or highlight reels that don’t really reflect the trueness of what the person actually goes through, right?

And then in some cases, maybe they rent a Lamborghini or they pay a certain amount of money to have a picture taken with a private jet instead of actually owning it. These are all stupid, ridiculous, superficial things that are going on in this day and age.

But it leads a lot of people to think, “Oh, that is what success is.” And it leads a lot of us to believe that, that’s what we should want. So, instead of all that, I want to challenge you to really focus on your business G spot, which is gratitude.

So, instead of living in the gap between where you are and where you want to be, focus on gratitude. And there’s nothing wrong with setting goals and intentions. I’m a massive goal setter!

But you have to learn—if you haven’t already—to focus on what you’ve accomplished instead of what you don’t have yet.

The small wins

That’s why I call this the business G spot. In your business, whether you’re a solopreneur or you’ve got a team of individuals, one of the most important things you can do on a daily basis as an individual is recap the small and big wins that you’ve had during the day.

And one of the easiest ways to do this is at night, simply write down a couple of wins that you had during the day. If you have a journal or if you use any kind of apps like WinStreak—which is one of Strategic Coach’s apps—do that.

This focuses our minds on the good instead of the gap. And this is so important, because remember, our mind can only fixate itself on one thing at a time. You are either seeing the gold or the dirt. If you use the analogy of that miner’s cap with the flashlight on it—you can’t focus on two things at the same time.

So, we want to habitually train ourselves to focus on all of the great things that we’ve done. And I’m talking about the smallest little things that most of us don’t recognize as wins. And the challenge is that we only focus on the big things as potential wins. Like, “Oh, my God, I struck this huge deal,” that’s a win.

But we often fail to recognize the small wins. A couple of examples might be … I woke up a little bit earlier today. I got in that work-out. I made myself a healthy breakfast. I sent that email, even though I was a little bit scared to. I recorded that podcast even though I didn’t feel like doing it.

There’s micro-moments in your day. Every single day, there are hundreds if not thousands of little moments that we can recognize as wins, appreciate them, and be grateful for them. And doing that makes us feel a lot more fulfilled. Because when we focus on what we’ve got and what we’ve accomplished, we feel so much more full than if we focus on the gap, right?

If we are looking at the cup and it’s half empty all the time, well obviously, we are going to feel deprived, we are going to feel that there’s a void that needs to be filled—instead of being grateful for the liquid or the water that’s already in the cup. And that’s what this exercise is all about.

So, this time of year is always an interesting challenge for me, because we have three boys who are fairly young—3 to 7 years old at the time of this recording. And I’ve always looked at Christmas time as first and foremost, all about being with loved ones.

It’s never been about the gifts for me. It’s never been about more toys and more junk and more shit like that, pardon my French. But as kids, that stuff really lights them up. So, it’s this balance.

If you’ve got kids, you’ve probably experienced this as well. It’s finding that balance between letting kids be kids and having their presents, doing all that stuff … but also helping them recognize that it’s not about just getting new stuff all the time.

Because again, if you’ve got kids, I’m sure you’ve recognized this at some point. The kids open up a present. Cool, a toy car. They open up the next present, cool, little fighter jet, whatever. Next present. And it’s on, and on, and on.

So, I’ve always had this struggle in my household because my wife Amy has a slightly different perspective on this than I do. But it’s about finding the happy medium between not going crazy overboard with these toys, but also giving the kids enough so they feel like, “Oh, this is amazing.” And it’s just really Festivus time.

So, it’s finding that balance between—since we’re talking about Christmas here—how do we just let the kids enjoy the gifts and do all that cool stuff, but also remind them that it’s not about just that stuff.

And one of the things that I really want to do, and this is something I’ve been saying for years, and I feel terrible for not having done it yet … Is actually exposing them to people who are less fortunate. And maybe this is not as accessible as I think it is, or maybe it’s just an excuse I’m making. But exposing them to people who are homeless, and who don’t have anything on Christmas. Helping them understand that what they have is absolutely amazing.

Because there’s a lot of people that don’t have this stuff. Whether it’s food, toys, or shelter.

So, in your business it’s the same. It’s recognizing that, no matter what you’re going through, no matter what challenges you’re up against, you are so much better off than so many people in this world. And I’ll actually just lay it out for you right here.

1. You are most likely doing something you love.
2. You’re helping transform people’s lives.
3. You’re either making great income or you’re in the process of developing assets that are going to yield great revenue for you.

And it’s very, very easy to get off that path. To be thinking, “Oh, I’m not here yet,” or, “I should have this,” or, “I should be making this much money.”

And I get it. I’ve been there. Believe me.

So, I’m sharing this from the depth of my own experience and heart here. I want to really encourage you, especially starting today, on Christmas Day. And I want to thank you for listening in, if you’re listening in on Christmas day.

Focus on the good, not the gap

But I am really encouraging you to start focusing on the win. Start focusing on the good instead of the gap. Because when you do, you’re going to feel so much happier, you’re going to feel so much more grateful.

And here’s the cool thing—what you focus on, you get more of.

So, if you focus on lack, you will get more lack. If you focus on abundance, and what you have, and appreciation, well, guess what? You’re going to get more things in life that you’re going to be able to appreciate.

Call it law of attraction, call it whatever you want. It’s just the way it works. Why do so many successful people meditate first thing in the morning? Why do so many people talk about the power of gratitude as being the biggest thing that’s been the needle mover for them in their lives, their mentality, their mindset and their business?

And that’s because we feel so much happier simply by focusing on different things. And it’s not that life is doing stuff to us, it’s how we respond to life. Two people experiencing the same situation might have very different responses to that—it’s yourresponse that determines how you feel about that situation.

So, I want to leave you with this little encouraging message today. If you want to feel a whole lot better as an entrepreneur and you want to have a business that continues to thrive—focus on the good. Recap the wins—individually, on a daily basis. With your team—if you’ve got team calls or a team meeting every week, start off the meeting with recapping, “What was a big win for everyone from the previous week?”

Just get the momentum moving in the right direction. Because when you focus on everything that’s not working right, it’s not the right energy. Yes, we have to resolve issues, but if everything is focused on the pessimistic, gloomy view, “These customers were idiots, and they did this,” and all that kind of stuff … it just isn’t the right energy.

Focus on the good, not the gap.

So, that’s what I’m going to leave you with today. And with that said, I want to thank you for being with me for the past several months. This has been an amazing journey for me. This is something I really love doing—bringing these types of lessons to you and interviewing amazing people in our space.

We are doing great things in their businesses, because I really believe that highlighting these conversations, highlighting these individuals can give you perspective, can remind you that there are a lot of different ways to scale the mountain, if you will. And to really remind and inspire you that no matter where you are in your journey, there’s always a brighter day.

If you are at the depths of despair and you can’t figure out how things are supposed to work out—this thing fell through and nothing seems to be working out for you—I want you to understand that it’s never too late.

There are times where it’s going to be really tough. And I’ll be very honest with you, there are probably more challenging times than there are rewarding, easy times. And that’s just the way it goes.

As an entrepreneur, we signed up for this journey. And it’s about becoming a better version of ourselves so we can handle these bigger problems. Because problems don’t go away. The bigger your business gets, potentially, the bigger those problems get.

And it’s not that they are bigger problems, they might just be bigger in scope, right? Initially, when hiring one person was, “Holy cow, how can I hire one person?” Maybe eventually, hiring 100 people becomes your challenge. And how do you manage that?

So, what’s really cool about what we are on in this journey of building a business, is that we have to grow personally, to become better leaders, become better examples for those around us. So that we can lead others, lead ourselves, and really leave a lasting impact in this world.

So, I want to thank you so much for being a subscriber to the Healthpreneur Podcast. If you have not subscribed, be sure to do so today. We’ve got a lot of amazing episodes coming your way in 2018, including a special bonus session. I’m going to do a bonus round with you, which will be available next Saturday, actually, December 30.

This will be a really nice pre-New Year’s type of session. We are going to look at how to really get clear and focused on the year ahead. I think this session will give you some nice perspective on how to get focused and clear, and really get on the right path to going after your biggest goals in 2018, instead of being scattered with 1,000 little things that you think you should be doing.

So, That’s coming up for you next Saturday. In the meantime, I’ve got two amazing interviews for you this week—one with James Swanwick, who’s a good buddy of mine, coming to us Wednesday. And then, Dr. Peter Camiolo, who built the world’s fastest-growing chiropractic clinic. He’s gonna share how that almost cost him everything and the lessons he’s learned along the way.

So, that’s coming your way this week. Be sure to subscribe if you haven’t already. We’ll have both of these interviews, with a bonus session on Saturday, and tons of amazing stuff coming in 2018—right on your iPod, or your iPad, your iPhone, whatever you’re listening to us from.

I want to thank you so much. I hope you have an amazing rest of your holidays. And I will have our great James Swanwick interview for you in just a few days.

Until then, Merry Christmas, hope you enjoy the day, and I will see you then.